Birth Mother Grief
Though not as common, some open adoptions occur with children who are older. These same feelings of grief exist or can be even stronger. When the child and birth mother have already had time to bond, the separation may be intense. The adoptive mother might feel this as well, which could cause her own feelings of depression. Again, it is vital that all parties understand that the adoption is best for the child. Strong faith helps the family to heal from the pain. It also helps them to very quickly begin to enjoy the excitement of the new family unit.
A Catholic open adoption allows the parents to get to know each other before and after the adoption. This is a great blessing to everyone involved. Studies have shown that these types of adoption are healthiest for the birth mothers, adoptive parents and the children.